Fearless Fox Friday!

Fearless Fox Friday!

Desires, wants, dreams can often get stuck in the land of expectations. Either the expectations you have of yourself or others stops you from moving forward, taking a risk, or making a decision.

What can you do to move forward? First, we must be aware. Aware of what you are wanting really, free of judgment. Aware of what you are expecting from yourself and others. Aware of your willingness to make different choices.

Now that you are aware, the ball is in your court. You have the power and you get to choose to create a new life or experience for yourself. The sky is the limit. What will you do? If you would like support in figuring that out? Contact me. We'll get cracking.

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Fearless Fox Friday!

What are the silent contracts you have going on?

Fearless Fox Friday!

We all have silent contracts. We have them with ourselves and others. They keep us in waiting mode, or frustrated, or feeling lazy and unaccomplished. Which is never a fun place to be.

We might get stuck in our head with negative thoughts like, "I can't depend on anyone, but myself" or "This person is such a flake, they don't care about this." When that could be completely not true.

Or we can get stuck in our feelings of feeling worthless or unlovable. Telling yourself, "I can't do anything about this, they have all the power" or "no one loves me or cares about me enough for them to take action, not even myself."

So, are you asking, "What can I do to change?" Great! Because that is the first step. The next is to express what those silent contracts are. Write them down or have an open conversation with the person who you want them from. Tell people what you want or need from them. No one can read your mind. Sometimes not even yourself. Get clear on what it is that you want and start going for it! Asking for it! Getting it!

Need help figuring all that out? Contact me. I can help you out. We'll crack through that shell and get to what it all is.

Let's Hatch! 

Fearless Fox Friday!

What are the silent contracts you have going on?

Fearless Fox Friday!

We all have silent contracts. We have them with ourselves and others. They keep us in waiting mode, or frustrated, or feeling lazy and unaccomplished. Which is never a fun place to be.

We might get stuck in our head with negative thoughts like, "I can't depend on anyone, but myself" or "This person is such a flake, they don't care about this." When that could be completely not true.

Or we can get stuck in our feelings of feeling worthless or unlovable. Telling yourself, "I can't do anything about this, they have all the power" or "no one loves me or cares about me enough for them to take action, not even myself."

So, are you asking, "What can I do to change?" Great! Because that is the first step. The next is to express what those silent contracts are. Write them down or have an open conversation with the person who you want them from. Tell people what you want or need from them. No one can read your mind. Sometimes not even yourself. Get clear on what it is that you want and start going for it! Asking for it! Getting it!

Need help figuring all that out? Contact me. I can help you out. We'll crack through that shell and get to what it all is.

Let's Hatch! 

Fearless Fox Friday!

This week I posted a video about dealing with lemons or even lemon trees. From there to here my thoughts have been open to change.
Where is my focus and how flexible am I?

Fearless Fox Friday!

I can be very focused and driven when it comes to getting something done. I plan out what I need to do in order and construct a plan of attack. I engage those I need help from or support to get moving forward. I do tons of research and find the best options.

The second I get opposition I start to either give up or fight harder. I don't really have a middle ground. I might have said I gave up, but secretly I'm still planning quietly.

It's a challenge for me to let go of a vision completely. I'll start to think, okay if this aspect isn't working then I'll try it this way. If everyone isn't happy about this part, then I'll try it this way. I keep trying different timelines or scenarios until I really give up or I achieve what I'm planning.

This week my fear has me thinking this is me being demanding or pushy. So, I have asked myself, am I willing to change course or shift my intention? Am I willing to shift my vision? Am I attached to the outcome?

What I discovered is, yes I am willing. I'm willing to change, I'm willing to shift. I am not attached to the outcome. What I am attached to is making a change or decision in the direction of the shift. I want some kind of forward movement or thinking and planning.

Where do I go from here? What choices are in front of me? Where does my power for change lie? Am I clear on what I want within those areas where I have power? This is where I am now, contemplating and getting clear.

Where are you in your process? I'd love to support you! If you are ready to get cracking? Contact me. Together we will figure it out.

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Fearless Fox Friday!

This week is suicide prevention week. As most of you know my dad committed suicide when I was 15, December 18, 1993. My dad was pretty amazing. He was fun and told inappropriate jokes. He was vain and would do squats with us on his shoulders. At 58 I never saw him with One grey hair. I honestly thought he just didn't grey. Really with 8 daughters and a son? I found the hair dye after he died.
The most amazing thing my dad did was see me. I always felt loved and seen and heard by him. He always had time for me. He always had compassion for whatever situation I found myself in. He not only did this for me but all of us. He also loved my mom, very much. I think he loved everyone, but himself.
His suicide had a great effect on me. That might have been obvious. He made it so, when I hated myself and started listening to the darkness, I  can never make the choice he did. Because I will never be able to fully convince myself that my family is better off without me. I know first hand how it felt to be told that my father was dead, and by his own hand. I know the years of pain, years of doubt, years of missed opportunities. This I can never do to someone else. Over the years I have cycled through the emotions. I have tried to focus on the "good things" that came from his decision to take his life. But, no matter how many years pass. I will always want him, always miss him, and always wonder if I could have done something.
So if you are struggling with the darkness? Know you are not alone. Know you are needed, wanted, and greatly loved! Hang on. Reach out. Speak up. Ask for help. You can get pass whatever it is. The darkness is wrong. The darkness lies. The darkness can't win again!
I know the battle is real. We all have scares of some kind to prove it. I am here for you. I will stand by your side. We can be victorious! ♡