Today for fearless tool #4 we are going to discuses a big one. FORGIVENESS! I know! I said it was a big one. Forgiveness is rarely for the other person, it most likely is for your own healing. Not forgiving someone will only hold you back and keep you stuck from being the person you want to be. Rhonda Britten says that not forgiving someone is like taking poison and expecting it to kill the other person. It won't kill the other person but it will damage you! Letting go it never easy and letting go can be done in stages when it is something you find difficult. No matter what someone has done to you no matter there reasons or their own issues that caused them to take such actions you can forgive them. You forgive them for yourself. So that you can move on. It doesn't mean that what they did is okay or that you need to put yourself in the position to be hurt again. It is just you releasing the pain, anger, or lie that you have been holding on to. It can be scary to let go because in some cases it maybe how you define yourself or what you think motivates you forward. It's going to be okay, I promise. You are much more than your pain or story!
One tool you can use in your quest to forgive is a forgiveness letter. Write a letter to this person who hurt you. Forgive them for the things they did to you. Be specific. You can also state the things you are not ready to let go of as well. Continue this process over and over again. You don't need to just do it once. You can write as many letters as you want. You can also write a forgiveness letter to yourself. Forgive yourself for holding on so long to the pain, or your part in the situation, or what ever blame or shame you may have about what happened. Write it all down, and than burn it and release it. Or tear it up into little pieces or send it to the person. It's all up to you. The important thing is to get it all out of you and practice letting it go. You can do it, I believe in you.
As you continue to let go of the pain and negative feelings you will move forward. What are the possibilities of your new life? Only you can tell me that. I would love to hear from you! Also if anyone else has a tool they have used to help them forgive please share it with us here. Forgiving yourself and others will allow you to see yourself in a new light and what is out there for you. Breaking out of the patten of holding on will allow you to become whatever you want! Let's Hatch!
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