Fearless Fox Friday!

This week I looked at my quotes that I have gathered on my Let's Hatch pinterest board, and I picked one that spoke to me. I hope it speaks to you as well.

Fearless Fox Friday!

"The grass is green where you water it." I'm sure you have heard this before as well as other comments similar to this idea. We as humans tend to want green grass with no effort. We look around at others' yards and wonder why our grass is not as nice or why we don't have such pretty flowers or why others' are so nicely manicured with rocks or curvy lines. It's because they put in the work to get their yards that way. They do what is necessary to get their grass green. And, most likely they are not sitting around looking at your lawn wondering anything about yours. People who live their lives don't sit around wondering about those who don't. They are too busy living to do so. 

What can you do then? Get busy for sure. Busy doing what? Well, that is totally up to you! The possibilities are right in front of you. You can do anything you set your mind to, if you are willing to step out and take the steps forward needed. Start asking yourself, what are you interested in? What do you dream about? What do you think about and put your energy in?

Where you put your focus is where you are watering. Or in another way of looking at it, there is a story I enjoy about a white dog and a black dog. If you put them in a fight, which one will win? The one you feed will win. So, where do you water? What are you feeding? Are you feeding your fear, or your freedoms and dreams? 

If you need help or want support in figuring out what you want to focus on, email me. We will figure it out together. Let's Hatch into the Rock Stars we are! letshatch@gmail.com

Fearless Fox Friday!

This week has been a struggle. It was our first week of summer and adjusting to that, but there has also has been an internal struggle. I have felt lately like I am being forced to hold my tongue. This isn't really true. I am choosing to not speak. I do this in many areas of my life. I am a peacemaker, and for the most part i hold my tongue for peace and in respect of others and their opinions. Today, I will choose to speak to one. I completely respect that not everyone's feelings will be the same, especially my siblings and mother.

Fearless Fox Friday!

Today I choose to speak about my Daddy. My dad was born in 1935, and grew up on a large ranch in the middle of California. He loved horses and wore cowboy boots. My dad had a sparkle in his eye and was easy to laugh and slow to get mad. He was vain, in my opinion, always concerned with being fit and never with a grey hair. Until maybe a year after he died I thought he had just great genes and didn't grey. With being fit, he never went to a gym. He would put me and my siblings on his shoulders and rise and sit on a chair. He was compassionate to everyone. He and my mom could cut a rug (dance), and he would always do really thoughtful things.

I knew that my dad and I had something in common, low self-esteem. I felt like he felt like he could be doing so much more with his job. I knew he loved me and my siblings and mom very much. I knew he had a testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

What I didn't know, and never considered in my 15 year old brain, was that he would and did commit suicide.

The man who saw me, loved me unconditionally, and always made everything better was gone in an instant. I felt abandoned and alone and wanted to join him. These are still feelings that I combat on a regular basis. The world would never be the same.

It's been 22 1/2 years since and I am still affected everyday by his choice. Most days I choose to be positive. Over the years I have been angry, sad, and grateful, sometimes all at once. On this Father's day eve I look back, and ask myself what lessons did I learn.

1. You must love yourself first, or you will lose yourself.
2. Love is real.
3. The gospel of Jesus Christ is true.
4. Thoughts are real and lead to real action. Be careful when the bad thoughts come. Don't let them take away your happiness. 
5. See each day as a Great Day!
6. Love your family unconditionally.
7. Be thoughtful of each other.
8. Laugh.
9. Work hard at whatever you do.
10. Ask for support from the people you love and trust.

Fearless Fox Friday!

Building your tribe is a phrase I have been hearing a lot lately. We call it your fearbuster team at FLI, but I believe it is the same concept. "No one can be fearless alone" Rhonda Britten says, and it's true. Who do you have around you? Who is building you up and seeing your capability?  Who really has your back when the crap hits the fan? These people are your tribe.

Fearless Fox Friday!

Do you have a team of fearbusters behind you? That is the question today. I could go into the different kind of fearbusters to look for, but whether you have some is more important. Maybe I need to start with what is a fearbuster. Fearbusters, bust our fears. Simply put, they believe in us. They tell us "Yes you can" instead of "Are you sure that is wise, remember last time?" They see our potential and encourage us and support us in achieving our dreams. Fearbusters are powerful partners, cheerleaders, and voices of experience who rally us forward towards our true selves. They help us see past the lies and limitations to truly see our own rock star status. On the other hand, "Fear Junkies" discourage us, such as dream drainers, rearview mirrors, or rivals in disguise.

I have lots of supporters in my life. Some are better at it than others. I know who to go to for what and how to know their fears from mine. This was something learned with a lot of practice. How do you know who to go to for certain things? Sometimes you have a conversation with them and ask if they are willing to support you in this way. You really can't say the wrong thing to the right person. If they are your true tribe, they will be there for you when you ask. It is your job to be clear in what you are needing and ask for it.

If you are wanting to add a coach to your fearbuster team, I'm here for you. Email me and let's get together. Let's hatch into the stars that we are!

Fearless Fox Friday!

I talk to you each week about how you can make different choices and see the rock star inside yourself. This week I am going to talk about how I did that for myself.

Fearless Fox Friday!

This week I was asked to come into the locker room of a professional women's soccer team before the game and coach them on fear. At first, I was shocked and stoked for the opportunity. I thought about what I would say to them. What I would do if I got to talk to them more than once. I started to want to know more about the girls and what fears they might have. Then my fear stepped up and told me that this was too big for me and I needed my mom to come with me or I needed to find a way to back out. I told myself I wasn't what the coach wanted and the woman players didn't want me either. In the course of a couple weeks I had told myself a lot of things.

Then the day came, and I knew what I wanted to say roughly, but I still wasn't sure it was going to happen. When I got the call from the coach I was so excited. This was a rock star engagement! I was going to stand in front of these women and share with them a little of my soul. I was going to share with them a new way of thinking about fear and how they could walk past the self-doubt and be the AllStars that they are.

It came time to step in front of them. I was even announced by the coach. They all clapped as I approached my spot. This was it! This was my moment to shine my light for these women to see that all things are possible when they believe in themselves. I stepped up and owned the room. Was I scared? Oh yes! Was my fear trying to get me out of the room? Oh yes. But I stood my ground, and I shared with these amazing women my complete belief in them. They shared some of their fears with me and strategies they were already employing. I mean they are an undefeated professional team, they are pretty good at telling the fear "I've got this, calm down." We talked about the negative self-talk and the doubts that plague us all. I was clear and uplifting, and they clapped when I was finished! It was a major confidence booster and an amazing experience. I for sure felt like a Rock Star.

I tell you this, not to toot my own horn, but to show you that this is a process for all of us. We are all in a state of hatching from our shell and becoming a star. For me, this was a big week of growing,

and other weeks it feels like I am reconstructing my shell. We are all moving along a path that is constructed of choices. Are you willing to make the choices necessary to get you where you want to be? I'm here to support you. Are you wanting to define what kind of a star you want to hatch into? I'm your girl. Do you need someone who completely believes in you and your ability to live your dreams? That is my superpower. Email me at letshatch@gmail.com and we can set up an appointment, and get started. Come be a Rock Star with me!